You are THE priority.

Recently I was sitting at a networking event for women. The presentation was absolutely delightful. Until I was triggered.

I was triggered by an innocent enough question. The question was…

“What are your top four priorities?”

You see, I believe priority should be singular. If you list one priority, it probably has about ten bullet points. So if you list four things as priorities, they probably have about forty bullet points. And if everything is a priority, nothing is a priority.

Our culture is one of overflowing plates. I have literally never spoken with any adult that has said to me, “You know what my problem is? I don’t have enough to do.” Instead women come to me with issues like time management, productivity, an inability to say no, and sometimes the feeling like they are on the verge of drowning.

Choosing a priority does not change the contents of our overflowing plates. It just helps us to become crystal clear on what to eat first.

I feel so very passionately that the answer is the same for everyone: YOU are the priority!

Some of you might think that would be selfish.

Some of you have taken yourself off the plate altogether in an effort to make room for more.

What if?

What if you looked at possibility?

What if you looked out at the best version of yourself? What does she do for herself EVERY DAY? How much sleep does she get? What does she do just for the pleasure of it? How does she nourish herself?

Let’s experiment!

Write down 10 things you would like to try this month FOR YOURSELF. Set yourself up for success. If you are just beginning a new practice, make it very easy to meet the goal. For example, if you would like to take up meditating every day, your goal could be to meditate for 5 minutes. It doesn’t have to be perfect. If you want to start running, your goal could be to simply put on your running shoes and get out the door. No specific distance required!

Aim for 10 things. Give yourself 1 point for every thing you accomplish on the list each day. If you could benefit from some accountability, find a friend to do this with you. You can share your scores with each other at the end of the day.

The goal isn’t perfection. The goal is to do this experiment for a month. Notice how you feel. Do you feel healthier? More rested? Connected with friends? Does your overflowing plate seem lighter?

YOU are the priority. YOU are in charge. YOU show up. And the world will be a better place because of it.

The Lifters and The Lifted

Doing hard things means that sometimes things are, well, hard.

Occasionally, we might find ourselves in a place where we question whether they are “too hard”.

And by luck or divine intervention, we will find ourselves having coffee in the morning with a strong woman who believes in us. Something shifts. Our faith returns. We remember why we do hard things in the first place.

And then we might find ourselves having MORE coffee with someone else who sees that the brick wall in front of us is an illusion, a warped perspective. She hands you the tools you need to burst through the wall.

And there it is:  Possibility.

Strong women help each other up. Sometimes we are the lifters, and sometimes we are the lifted. What an enormous blessing to have the opportunity to be both.

 

 

Why Should I Hire a Life Coach?

A dandelion can be thought of as a weed or a wildflower. We don’t often think about it though. It is the same with life in general.

Hiring a life coach is like pressing pause and looking at our life through a compassionate, constructive, and critical lens.

Do you feel stuck? Are you feeling lost? Do you have a feeling that you are meant for something more, but don’t know what?

Are you going through any kind of transition?

Are there barriers that are getting in the way of your goals?

A life coach can be an ally. A person to help you find clarity. And with that clarity comes crystal clear action steps to ensure you are on the path to your definition of success.

A life coach can help you find clarity around not just what to do, but who you really are.

Often we find ourselves going through the motions. Holding our breath. Wandering.

A life coach can help you to be more intentional.

Exhale. Pause. Go for it.

 

A Matter of Perspective

Perspective 1. The fear of failure is the only thing in my way. By removing that obstacle, I can clarify my thoughts, and see what it is that I truly want. I would argue that the fear is a much bigger barrier than potential failure.

Perspective 2. I will only move forward if I am guaranteed not to fail. Hmm. That guarantee would mean that whatever I am doing is so easy for me that I am not remotely challenged.

Perspective 3. I need to change the question. What will I do even though I will fail along the way, because the DOING is what delivers oxygen to my lungs, water to my parched lips, and sweet music to my ears? The outcome is irrelevant.

The great thing about perspective is that we have a choice. Which perspective are you choosing?

Why “Raining Glitter”?

One of the benefits of driving 1000 miles a week is that you have a lot of time to listen to podcasts. I was telling my best friend Melanie about one of those podcasts:

Me: “I have been listening to a podcast called Happier by Gretchen Rubin. It is so cool. She gives you little try-this-at-home tips for how to be happier!

Melanie: “Lisa, if you were any happier, it would be raining glitter.”

That is maybe the nicest compliment I have ever received.

Fast forward. I no longer drive 1000 miles a week.

All of the roads I have been on have lead me to where I am now. I received my Professional Life Coaching Certificate from the University of Wisconsin- Madison. This program is accredited by the International Coaching Federation.

To say I look forward to working with you is an understatement. Let’s do great things.