Recently I was sitting at a networking event for women. The presentation was absolutely delightful. Until I was triggered.
I was triggered by an innocent enough question. The question was…
“What are your top four priorities?”
You see, I believe priority should be singular. If you list one priority, it probably has about ten bullet points. So if you list four things as priorities, they probably have about forty bullet points. And if everything is a priority, nothing is a priority.
Our culture is one of overflowing plates. I have literally never spoken with any adult that has said to me, “You know what my problem is? I don’t have enough to do.” Instead women come to me with issues like time management, productivity, an inability to say no, and sometimes the feeling like they are on the verge of drowning.
Choosing a priority does not change the contents of our overflowing plates. It just helps us to become crystal clear on what to eat first.
I feel so very passionately that the answer is the same for everyone: YOU are the priority!
Some of you might think that would be selfish.
Some of you have taken yourself off the plate altogether in an effort to make room for more.
What if you looked at possibility?
What if you looked out at the best version of yourself? What does she do for herself EVERY DAY? How much sleep does she get? What does she do just for the pleasure of it? How does she nourish herself?
Write down 10 things you would like to try this month FOR YOURSELF. Set yourself up for success. If you are just beginning a new practice, make it very easy to meet the goal. For example, if you would like to take up meditating every day, your goal could be to meditate for 5 minutes. It doesn’t have to be perfect. If you want to start running, your goal could be to simply put on your running shoes and get out the door. No specific distance required!
Aim for 10 things. Give yourself 1 point for every thing you accomplish on the list each day. If you could benefit from some accountability, find a friend to do this with you. You can share your scores with each other at the end of the day.
The goal isn’t perfection. The goal is to do this experiment for a month. Notice how you feel. Do you feel healthier? More rested? Connected with friends? Does your overflowing plate seem lighter?
YOU are the priority. YOU are in charge. YOU show up. And the world will be a better place because of it.